As I read through my previous blogs I realized that the tone is a little bleak. Obviously there are good reasons for this considering what happened to Adam and to us but there is an underlying hope that I want to make sure is conveyed. 2 Timothy 2:1 says, “You then, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.” This is obviously much easier to accomplish when you have not lost your son but as a believer in Christ I felt blessed before Adam took his life and still do. God has done amazing things in my life and I am confident this will continue. I wore this bracelet for several years before losing Adam and continue to wear it today knowing that nothing has changed.
Adam is and was a tremendous blessing in our life. We had lost a previous child to a miscarriage and were so grateful when Adam was conceived. The fact that he was going to be a boy made us even happier since we wanted the experience of raising a daughter and a son. When Adam was born he came out in trouble and had to spend a week in Neonatal Intensive Care. This made us even more appreciative to have him in our lives. From the beginning he was such a sweet child. Throughout his life he was nothing but loving to us and to others and obedient to us in every way. There is a tendency when someone passes to review their life with hyperbole and overstate their virtues and understate their shortcomings. I can promise you with Adam this is not the case. We were very fortunate to have him for the 15 years we did and we know this and are so grateful We just wish it could have been longer.
My wife Anne and I were discussing some of her feelings around the loss and in response I was expressing my own biggest wish which is that he was still with us. I miss him so much and there is so much I still want to share with him but I know that is impossible to do in the same way. Nor would it be good for him to come back. He is in a place now where he is perfect and knows no pain or fear and it would be wrong and selfish to want him back on the earth after he has experienced the glory of God’s presence. A friend gave me a book titled “Room of Marvels” in which the main character expresses a similar sentiment so I know it is a common idea.
Without Christ in our lives I am not sure how we would deal with what has happened but because we do believe we have the comfort of knowing that Adam is with our Savior and that God has plans for us to get through this time. We have been blessed with amazing friends who have prayed for us and done so much to help us which makes us feel loved. We have each other which is so comforting. My daughter has been an amazing pillar of strength for both me and my wife and has expressed such immense love for Adam it is like he is with us every day.
I know the pain of losing Adam will never leave my soul but I am confident that the Lord will bring hope into our lives and that the future holds amazing things for us. We have been blessed to have Adam in our lives and with the friendships and love we continue to experience I know the Lord continues to minister to us in our grief and will bring us through this experience stronger and full of love for his creations here and in the next world.